I am shocked by her reaction...

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I have been getting very close to a girl I met on Facebook. She lives in another country, but we have been chatting for a few months now because we were part of the same interest group. I have told her a lot about my personal life, and she has also opened up and told me about her past as well as her family, much of which she said she had never discussed with anyone before. We have been chatting for two to three hours every day and this has been going on for a few months now. A few days ago, I told her that I was beginning to have feelings for her, and she replied saying she only thought of me as a friend and nothing more. I have been heartbroken since that conversation because I thought there was a real connection between us. I don't know if she's saying this only because we live in different countries and haven't met in real life. How do I convince her to take me seriously? I think this person could be my soulmate which is why I'm shocked at her reaction.
She may have all kinds of reasons for saying what she did, but the facts don't change: you are living in different countries, have never met, and may not meet in person because of the logistics involved. This is also someone you know only via an online avatar, which isn't to say she may not be real, but does imply that all you are interacting with is a presence. We create personas for ourselves online and the distance between what we portray and who we are can be vast. You can only tell what a person is like when you have an understanding of every aspect of their personality, so you should evaluate what your feelings for her are based on. Also, as two adults having a conversation, you have been direct about your feelings, and she has responded with clarity. You may have to accept that.

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