People experience failure daily and while some are able to deal with it, there are others who struggle to get back up, and this has worsened in the age of social media. Two city experts dwell on the effects of failure on people, how those around them can help and even share tips to deal with it
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Every single one of us experiences failure in different ways at some point in our lives – some are small, others are bigger. The feeling of failure in question may be felt at different times in our life on the career, home, social and personal front too. While some of us are able to deal with it and move on, there are others who have a tough time coming to terms with failure, and that may be because of the expectations that they put on themselves or associated with the particular activity. It may seem like a phase but may often continue and even affect our mental health to a great extent.
City-based psychologist Shruti Padhye with the Mpower Cell, explains, “We have a strong association of value as humans with how successful we can be in our financial, romantic, academic or other pursuits. Some of us prefer to be seen as infallible beings who do things perfectly and are admired by many. While others are frightened by failure, as it can be a great attack on their sense of who they are. Some have painful experiences with punishments after failures, and they may tread rather cautiously on their path.”
In the last month, the Hindi film industry, popularly known as Bollywood, has seen a series of flops – right from Shamshera to Raksha Bandhan and even Laal Singh Chaddha more recently. Interestingly, social media doesn’t wait too long and gets to trolling the makers and actors within a hot second after they have watched the film. Dealing with this have become a part and parcel of actors’s lives but often it does get to them. If not them, the makers would definitely feel the disappointment expressed by people online as it is a ripple effect.
After Ranbir Kapoor-starrer Shamshera received a lot of hate online, the movie’s director Karan Malhotra took to social media to express his feelings about the reactions he experienced on the medium. In his heartfelt note, Malhotra goes on to elaborate how he took some time off because he couldn’t handle the “hate and rage” and his withdrawal is simply his weakness. However, he did come back and is “proud and honoured” to have made the movie and will deal with whatever comes for it along the way. Malhotra is definitely one among those to have handled the reactions better than most others, especially when high stakes are involved, but there are others, who may not be able to do it.
Keeping in mind the kind of form that failure can have in today’s social media age, Mid-day Online spoke to Dr Kedar Tilwe, consultant psychiatrist, Fortis Hospital Mulund & Hiranandani Hospital, Vashi and Shruti Padhye, psychologist and outreach associate with Mpower Cell, mental health initiative, to understand how people can deal with it better. While dealing with failure is going to be a daily process, the two experts stress on why people need to take timely breaks from social media at such times.
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