How do I tell him that I lied?

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This is not a problem as much as it is a confession. A few months ago, I met someone online and hit it off with him almost instantly. I was just fooling around at the time, so I gave him some fake responses to questions which made him think that I was someone I am not. There were a lot of lies told, but he believed me because he had no reason not to. We met and I liked him instantly. Since then, we have begun to get to know each other better and I think
I am falling for him. He is a great guy, and I know he likes me, but I am also aware that his attraction has a lot to do with what he thinks I am.
If I come clean and tell him the truth, he will walk away because he will not believe anything I say. If I continue to pretend, it is only a matter of time before he finds out and this breaks his heart. Is there any way I can make this work? I know I did something wrong, but I really like him and want this to turn into a relationship without hurting him in any way.
The damage has already been done, and to assume you can make this work without causing pain is somewhat naïve. The more you postpone this confession, the deeper you sink into a hole of your own making. This sounds harsh, but it has to be because you don't have a choice. No relationship built on lies or half-truths can survive for long because it has an impact on levels of trust between two people. Be honest, tell him why you did it, and also tell him why you want to explain everything. If he chooses to walk away, accept that decision. All you can hope for is that he may try and understand where you're coming from and appreciate you telling him everything before this relationship evolves into anything more serious.

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